Jerusalem Talmud Nedarim 9.7

משנה: פּוֹתְחִין לָאָדָם בִּכְבוֹד עַצְמוֹ וּבִכְבוֹד בָּנָיו. אוֹמְרִים לוֹ אִילּוּ הָיִיתָ יוֹדֵעַ שֶׁלְּמָחָר אוֹמְרִין עָלֶיךָ כָּךְ הִיא וֶסְתּוֹ שֶׁלִּפְלוֹנִי מְגָרֵשׁ נָשָׁיו וְעַל בְּנוֹתֶיךָ יְהוּ אוֹמְרִים בְּנוֹת גְּרוּשָׁה הֵן מָה רָאָת אִימָּן שֶׁלָּאֵילּוּ לְהִתְגָּרֵשׁ. וְאָמַר אִילּוּ הָיִיתִי יוֹדֵעַ שֶׁהוּא כֵן לֹא הָיִיתִי נוֹדֵר הֲרֵי זֶה מוּתָּר.

MISHNAH: One finds an opening for a man with his own honor and that of his children. One tells him, if you had known that tomorrow one will say of you, it is the habit of this man to divorce his wife, and about your daughters one will say, they are daughters of a divorcee, what did the mother of these do to get herself divorced? If he said, if I had known that it is so I would not have made the vow, then it is dissolved.

הלכה: פּוֹתְחִין לָאָדָם בִּכְבוֹד עַצְמוֹ כול׳. תַּנֵּי. רִבִּי יוּדָה בֶּן בְּתֵירָה אוֹמֵר. אֵין פּוֹתְחִין לָאָדָם אֶלָּא בִכְבוֹד עַצְמוֹ בִּלְבַד. כְּהָדָא חָדָא אִיתָה נָדְרָת מִן בְּרַתָּהּ. אָתָת לְגַבֵּי רִבִּי יוֹחָנָן. אָמַר לָהּ. אִילּוּ הֲוֵוית יָדַעַת דִּבְרַתֵּיךְ נָסְבָה שׁוּם בִּישׁ נוֹדֶרֶת הֲוֵית. אָמְרָה. לֹא. וְשָׁרַת לָהּ. וְלֹא מִתְנִיתָא הִיא. פּוֹתְחִין לָאָדָם בִּכְבוֹד עַצְמוֹ וּבִכְבוֹד בָּנָיו. דְּלֹא תִיסְבּוֹר כְּרִבִּי יוּדָה בֶּן בְּתֵירָה.

HALAKHAH: “One finds an opening for a man about his own honor,” etc. It was stated: Rebbi Jehudah ben Bathyra said, one finds an opening for a man exclusively about his own honor. As the following? A woman vowed [not to have benefit] from her daughter. She came to Rebbi Joḥanan who said to her, if you had known that your daughter gets a bad reputation, would you have made the vow? She said, no, and he permitted her. Is that not the Mishnah: “One finds an opening for a man about his own honor and that of his children”? That you should not think one follows Rebbi Jehudah ben Bathyra.