Jerusalem Talmud Ketubot 13.5

משנה: הַפּוֹסֵק מָעוֹת לַחֲתָנוֹ וּפָשַׁט לוֹ אֶת הָרֶגֶל תְּהֵא יוֹשֶׁבֶת עַד שֶׁתַּלְבִּין רֹאשָׁהּ. אַדְמוֹן אוֹמֵר אִילּוּ אֲנִי פָּסַקְתִּי לְעַצְמִי אֱהֵא יוֹשֶׁבֶת עַד שֶׁתַּלְבִּין רֹאשִׁי. אַבָּא פָסַק עָלַי מָה אֲנִי יְכוֹלָה לַעֲשׂוֹת אוֹ כְנוֹס אוֹ פְטוֹר. אָמַר רַבָּן גַּמְלִיאֵל. רוֹאֶה אֲנִי אֶת דִּבְרֵי אַדְמוֹן.

MISHNAH: If somebody obligates himself about money for his son-in-law but then goes bankrupt, she must wait until her hair grows white. Admon says: “If I had obligated myself, I would have to wait until my hair grows white. My father obligated himself, what can I do? Marry definitively or divorce!” Rabban Simeon ben Gamliel said, I am convinced by Admon’s statement.

הלכה: הַפּוֹסֵק מָעוֹת לַחֲתָנוֹ וכול׳. מַתְנִיתָא בְּשֶׁפָּסַק בְּמַעֲמָדָהּ. אֲבָל אִם לֹא פָסַק בְּמַעֲמָדָהּ. אַף רַבָּנִין מוֹדֵיי.

HALAKHAH: “If somebody obligates himself about money for his son-in-law,” etc. The Mishnah [deals with the case] that he obligated himself in her presence. But if he obligated himself not in her presence, even the rabbis will agree.

תַּנֵּי. אָמַר רִבִּי יוֹסֵי בֵּירִבִּי יְהוּדָה. לֹא נֶחֱלַק אַדְמוֹן וַחֲכָמִים עַל הַפּוֹסֵק מָעוֹת לַחֲתָנוֹ וּפָשַׁט לוֹ אֶת הָרֶגֶל תְּהֵא יוֹשֶׁבֶת עַד שֶׁיַּלְבִּין אֶת רֹאשָׁהּ. וְעַל מַה נֶחֱלָקוּ. עַל שֶׁפָּסְקָה לְעַצְמָהּ. אַדְמוֹן אוֹמֵר. יְכוֹלָה הִיא שֶׁתֹּאמַר. סְבוּרָה הָיִיתִי שֶׁאַבָּא רוֹצֶה לִיתֵּן וְעַכְשָׁיו אֵין אָבָּא רוֹצֶה לִיתֵּן. מָה אֲנִי יְכוֹלָה לַעֲשׂוֹת. אוֹ כְנוֹס אוֹ פְטוֹר. אָמַר רַבָּן גַּמְלִיאֵל. רוֹאֶה אֲנִי אֶת דִּבְרֵי אַדְמוֹן.

It was stated: Rebbi Yose ben Rebbi Jehudah said, Admon and the rabbis did not disagree about one for whom the father had promised money but went bankrupt that she may sit until her hair grows white. Where did they disagree? If she promised herself. Admon says, she might say, “I was of the opinion that my father wants to give, but now my father does not want to give, what can I do? Marry definitively or divorce!” Rabban Simeon ben Gamliel said, I am convinced by Admon’s statement.