Jerusalem Talmud Avodah Zarah 1.3

משנה: יוֹם תִּגְלַחַת זְקָנוֹ וּבְלוֹרִיתוֹ יוֹם שֶׁעָלָה בוֹ מִן הַיָּם וְיוֹם שֶׁיָּצָא בוֹ מִבֵּית הָאֲסוּרִים וְגוֹי שֶׁעָשָׂה מִשְׁתֶּה לִבְנוֹ אֵינוֹ אָסוּר אֶלָּא אוֹתוֹ הַיּוֹם וְאוֹתוֹ הָאִישׁ.

MISHNAH: The day of the first shaving of his beard and his locks, the day he arrived from a trip at sea, the day he was freed from jail, or a Gentile wedding feast for his son, are forbidden only on the day itself and for this man.

הלכה: יוֹם תִּגְלַחַת זְקָנוֹ כול׳. מַה. אוֹתוֹ הַיּוֹם בִּלְבַד. אוֹ אוֹתוֹ הַיּוֹם בְּכָל שָׁנָה. וְהָתַנֵּי. תִּגְלַחְתּוֹ וְתִגְלַחַת בְּנוֹ אֲסוּרָה. תִּיפְתָּר שֶׁגִּילְּחוּ שְׁנֵיהֶן כְּאַחַת. וְהָתַנֵּי. מִשְׁתֵּהוּ וּמִשְׁתֶּה בְנוֹ אֲסוּרָה. תִּיפְתָּר שֶׁגִּילְּחוּ שְׁנֵיהֶן כְּאַחַת שֶׁנָּשְׂאוּ נָשִׁים. וְהָתַנֵּי. לֵידָתוֹ וְלֵידַת בְּנוֹ אֲסוּרָה. אִית לָךְ מֵימַר. שֶׁנּוֹלְדוּ שְׁנֵיהֶן כְּאַחַת. תִּיפְתָּר בְּהַהוּא דְּלָא אַסְפִּיק מֵיעֲבַד בְּיוֹמֵיהּ עַד דְּאִיתְיְלִיד לֵיהּ בַּר וַעֲבַד כְּחָדָא.

HALAKHAH: “The day of the first shaving of his beard,” etc. What means “only on the day itself”; maybe the same day every year? Did we not state, his haircut and his son’s haircut is forbidden? Explain it that they had a haircut together. Did we not state, his wedding feast and his son’s wedding feast are forbidden? Explain it that they together had a haircut and married women. Did we not state, his birth and his son’s birth is forbidden? Could you say that they were born together? Explain it that he did not do it on his day, but after the son was born he did it with him.

תַּנֵּי. לֹא יִשְׁלַח לוֹ חָבִיּוֹת מְכוּרוֹת לַחֶנְוָונִי מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא כְּטוֹעֲנוֹ טַעֲנַת חִנָּם. לֹא יְסָרֵב אָדָם בַּחֲבֵירוֹ לְאָרְחוֹ בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁאֵינוֹ רוֹצֶה. לֹא יַרְבֶּה לוֹ בְתִקְרוֹבֶת בְּשָׁעָה שֶׁהוּא יוֹדֵעַ שֶׁאֵינוֹ מְבַקֵּשׁ. מָהוּ בְּתִקְרוֹבֶת. רְחִיץ בְּזָוִוי אוֹחֲרֵי. וּבִירוּשָׁלִַם הָיָה הוֹפֵךְ עִיכְלֵיהּ דִּימִינָא לִשְׂמָאלָא.

He should not send him amphoras sold to the grocer because that is like claiming an unnecessary claim. One should not invite another knowing that he will not accept. He should not offer many gifts of closeness knowing that he does not want [them]. What is “of closeness”? He trusts another corner. And in Jerusalem he was switching his ‘ikhla from right to left.

תַּנֵּי. עִיר שֶׁיֵּשׁ בָּהּ גּוֹיִם וְיִשְׂרָאֵל. אִם נוֹתְנִין הַגּוֹיִם לַגַּבָּאִין גּוֹבִין מֵהֶן וּמִיִּשְׂרָאֵל. וּמְפַרְנְסִין עֲנִיֵּי גוֹיִם וַעֲנִיֵּי יִשְׂרָאֵל. וּמְבַקְּרִין חוֹלֵי גוֹיִם וְחוֹלֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל. נוֹחֲמִים אֲבֵילֵי גוֹיִם וַאֲבֵילֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל. וְקוֹבְרִין מֵיתֵי גוֹיִם וּמֵיתֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל. וּמַכְנִיסִין כֵּלֵי גוֹיִם וְכֵלֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל. מִפְּנֵי דַרְכֵי שָׁלוֹם. גִּירְדָּאֵי שְׁאָלוֹן לְרִבִּי אִמִּי. יוֹם מִשְׁתֶּה שֶׁלְּגוֹיִם מָהוּ. וּסְבַר מִישְׁרֵי לוֹן מִן הָדָא. מִפְּנֵי דַרְכֵי שָׁלוֹם. אֲמַר לֵיהּ רִבִּי בָּא. וְהָתַנֵּי רִבִּי חִיָיה. יוֹם מִשְׁתֶּה שֶׁלְּגוֹיִם אָסוּר. אָמַר רִבִּי אִמִּי. אִילוּלֵא רִבִּי בָּא הָיָה לָנוּ לְהַתִּיר עֲבוֹדָה זָרָה שֶׁלָּהֶן. וּבָרוּךְ הַמָּקוֹם שֶׁרִיחֲקָנוּ מֵהֶם.

It was stated: In a town where Gentiles and Jews live together, if the Gentiles contribute the overseers of charity collect from them and from Jews, and provide for Gentile and Jewish poor, visit Gentile and Jewish sick, console Gentile and Jewish mourners, and bury Gentile and Jewish dead. Also one takes in vessels from Gentiles and Jews for the sake of peaceful coexistence. The weavers asked Rebbi Immi, what about a Gentile wedding feast? He wanted to permit it to them from this: “for the sake of peaceful coexistence.” Rebbi Abba told him, did not Rebbi Ḥiyya state that a Gentile wedding feast is forbidden? Rebbi Immi said, if it had not been for Rebbi Abba we would have come to permit their pagan worship; praise be the Omnipresent Who distanced us from them.