AN 7.36

Paṭhamamittasutta

“Sattahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo. Katamehi sattahi? Duddadaṁ dadāti, dukkaraṁ karoti, dukkhamaṁ khamati, guyhamassa āvi karoti, guyhamassa pariguhati, āpadāsu na jahati, khīṇena nātimaññati. Imehi kho, bhikkhave, sattahi aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabboti.

A Friend (1st)

“Mendicants, you should associate with a friend who has seven factors. What seven? They give what is hard to give. They do what is hard to do. They endure what is hard to endure. They reveal their secrets to you. They keep your secrets. They don’t abandon you in times of trouble. They don’t look down on you in times of loss. You should associate with a friend who has these seven factors.

Duddadaṁ dadāti mitto, dukkarañcāpi kubbati; Athopissa duruttāni, khamati dukkhamāni ca.

A friend gives what is hard to give, and does what’s hard to do. They put up with your harsh words, and with things hard to endure.

Guyhañca tassa akkhāti, guyhassa parigūhati; Āpadāsu na jahāti, khīṇena nātimaññati.

They tell you their secrets, and keep your secrets for you. They don’t abandon you in times of trouble, or look down on you in times of loss.

Yamhi etāni ṭhānāni, saṁvijjantīdha puggale; So mitto mittakāmena, bhajitabbo tathāvidho”ti.

The individual in whom these things are found is your friend. If you want to have a friend, you should keep company with that sort.”