Hebrew · Midrash Rabbah (Hebrew, Torat Emet)וַיְהִי כַּאֲשֶׁר הִקְרִיב לָבוֹא מִצְרָיְמָה (בראשית יב, יא), כָּל הַשָּׁנִים הַלָּלוּ הוּא עִמָּהּ וְעַכְשָׁו הוּא אוֹמֵר לָהּ (בראשית יב, יא): הִנֵּה נָא יָדַעְתִּי כִּי אִשָּׁה יְפַת מַרְאֶה אָתְּ, אֶלָּא שֶׁעַל יְדֵי הַדֶּרֶךְ אָדָם מִתְבַּזֶּה וְזוֹ עָמְדָה בְּיָפְיָהּ. רַבִּי זְעֵירָא בְּשֵׁם רַבִּי סִימוֹן אָמַר הָלַכְנוּ בַּאֲרַם נַהֲרַיִם וּבַאֲרַם נָחוֹר וְלֹא מָצָאנוּ אִשָּׁה נָאָה כְּמוֹתֵךְ, עַכְשָׁו שֶׁאָנוּ נִכְנָסִים לִמְקוֹם כְּעוּרִים וּשְׁחוֹרִים, (בראשית יב, יג): אִמְרִי נָא אֲחֹתִי אָתְּ וגו'. רַבִּי פִּינְחָס בְּשֵׁם רַבִּי אָבוּן אָמַר שְׁנֵי בְּנֵי אָדָם הָיוּ עִקָּר וְעָשׂוּ עַצְמָן טְפֵלָה וְנַעֲשׂוּ טְפֵלָה, אַבְרָהָם וּבָרָק, בָּרָק (שופטים ד, ו): וַתִּשְׁלַח וַתִּקְרָא לְבָרָק בֶּן אֲבִינֹעַם מִקֶּדֶשׁ נַפְתָּלִי וַתֹּאמֶר אֵלָיו הֲלֹא צִוָּה ה' אֱלֹהֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל לֵךְ וּמָשַׁכְתָּ בְּהַר תָּבוֹר וְלָקַחְתָּ עִמְּךָ עֲשֶׂרֶת אֲלָפִים וגו', (שופטים ד, ח): וַיֹּאמֶר אֵלֶיהָ בָּרָק אִם תֵּלְכִי עִמִּי וְהָלָכְתִּי וְאִם לֹא תֵלְכִי עִמִּי לֹא אֵלֵךְ, רַבִּי יְהוּדָה וְרַבִּי נְחֶמְיָה, רַבִּי יְהוּדָה אוֹמֵר אִם תֵּלְכִי עִמִּי לְקֶדֶשׁ, אֵלֵךְ עִמָּךְ לְחָצוֹר, וְאִם לֹא תֵלְכִי עִמִּי לְקֶדֶשׁ לֹא אֵלֵךְ עִמָּךְ לְחָצוֹר. רַבִּי נְחֶמְיָה אָמַר אִם תֵּלְכִי עִמִּי לְשִׁירָה אֵלֵךְ עִמָּךְ לְמִלְחָמָה, וְאִם לֹא תֵלְכִי עִמִּי לְשִׁירָה, לֹא אֵלֵךְ עִמָּךְ לְמִלְחָמָה. (שופטים ד, ט): וַתֹּאמֶר הָלֹךְ אֵלֵךְ עִמָּךְ אֶפֶס כִּי לֹא תִהְיֶה תִפְאַרְתְּךָ, אָמַר רַבִּי רְאוּבֵן לָשׁוֹן יְוָנִי הִיא אֶפֶס, אָמְרָה לוֹ מָה אַתְּ סָבוּר שֶׁתִּפְאַרְתָּהּ שֶׁל שִׁירָה נִמְסְרָה לְךָ לְבַדֶּךָ, אֶתְמְהָא, וְנַעֲשָׂה טְפֵלָה, (שופטים ה, א): וַתָּשַׁר דְּבוֹרָה וּבָרָק בֶּן אֲבִינֹעַם. אַבְרָהָם הָיָה עִקָּר (בראשית יב, ה): וַיִּקַּח אַבְרָם אֶת שָׂרַי אִשְׁתּוֹ, עָשָׂה עַצְמוֹ טְפֵלָה, אִמְרִי נָא אֲחֹתִי אָתְּ, וְנַעֲשָׂה טְפֵלָה לָהּ, (בראשית יב, טז): וּלְאַבְרָם הֵיטִיב בַּעֲבוּרָהּ.
English · The Sefaria Midrash Rabbah (2022)“It was when he drew near to come to Egypt, he said to Sarai his wife: Behold, I know now that you are a woman of fair appearance” (Genesis 12:11).
“It will be, when the Egyptians will see you, they will say: This is his wife, and they will kill me, and keep you alive” (Genesis 12:12).
“Please, say you are my sister, so that it may be well with me because of you, and my soul shall live because of you” (Genesis 12:13).
“It was when he drew near to come to Egypt” – he was together with her all those years, and only now he says to her: “Behold, I know now that you are a woman of fair appearance”? The explanation is that due to travel a person [usually] becomes unsightly, but this one [Sarai] retained her beauty.
Rabbi Ze’eira said in the name of Rabbi Simon: [Abraham told her:] ‘We traveled through Aram Naharayim and Aram Naḥor and we did not encounter a woman as fair as you. Now that we are entering a place of ugly and swarthy people, “please, say you are my sister….”’
Rabbi Pinḥas said in the name of Rabbi Avun: There were two people who were the principal party, but subordinated themselves, and then actually became subordinate: Abraham and Barak. Barak – “She [Deborah] sent and summoned Barak son of Avinoam from Kedesh Naphtali, and said to him: Behold, the Lord, God of Israel, has commanded, saying: Go and draw toward Mount Tavor and take with you ten thousand…” (Judges 4:6). “Barak said to her: If you go with me, I will go, but if you do not go with me, I will not go” (Judges 4:8). Rabbi Yehuda and Rabbi Neḥemya, Rabbi Yehuda says: [Barak said:] ‘If you go with me to Kedesh, I will go with you to Ḥatzor. If you do not go with me to Kedesh, I will not go with you to Ḥatzor.’ Rabbi Neḥemya said: [Barak said:] ‘If you accompany me in song, I will go with you to war. If you do not accompany me in song, I will not go with you to war. “She said: I will go with you; however [efes], it will not be your glory [on the path that you take, for it is by the hand of a woman that the Lord will deliver Sisera]” (Judges 4:9). Rabbi Reuven said: Efes is a Greek expression. She said to him: ‘What do you think, that the glory of the song was assigned to you specifically?’ That was a rhetorical question. He then became subordinate [to her]: “Deborah and Barak son of Avinoam sang” (Judges 5:1).
Abraham was the principal party: “Abram took his wife Sarah” (Genesis 12:5). He subordinated himself: “Please, say you are my sister [so that it may be well with me because of you]” (Genesis 12:13). And he became subordinate to her: “He benefitted Abram for her sake” (Genesis 12:16).